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+4Korenav Doodle Bug Weedo The Great Callilian 8 posters | Author | Message |
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Callilian
Posts : 1654 Join date : 2013-02-27 Location : Lost to the sands of time.
| Subject: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 4:32 pm | |
| butterfly and I are being absolutely terrorized by this guy. He calls us names, disses what I write, what I like (like MLP, for example), calls us fat, foul-mouthed, dressed like homeless people, don't shower, and everyone hates us with all of their guts. I'm like, yeah, sure, go ahead and keep talking.
"NOBODY wants to read your stupid stories. You're not popular btw. You're not funny, so go the f*ck away."
"You guys are rude and disgusting and nobody likes you guys! Get it through your heads! You guys are freaks and wannabes. Losers."
Then, I lost my student election. No biggie, right? There's always next year. So I came down late for lunch, pulled out my phone, and started surfing the forum. He starts saying how happy he is that he voted for this other girl, who won, and how great she'll be, how proud he was of her, how much better than all the others she was. Guess who was sitting right across from him? Before I was there, I hadnt eve known who had won, and Hydrangea told me that he was talking about how badly I was takig the loss and hpw much of a sore loser I was. WTB?!?! I've talked to multiple teachers about it, and he was spoken to by the Vice Principal, but it hasn't stopped. I ignore him, I don't speak to him unless absolutely nessesary. What the buck do I do?!?! | |
| | | Weedo The Great
Posts : 290 Join date : 2013-05-17 Age : 30 Location : Gone forever probably
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 5:29 pm | |
| Wait until karma hits him ;D | |
| | | Doodle Bug
Posts : 1450 Join date : 2012-11-06
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 5:37 pm | |
| Ignore him, all he wants is to put you down and he's only satisfied by your reaction. When he starts up just walk away and if he follows you then say, "Hey, look I don't care what you have to say. Leave me alone." If he persists then just keep ignoring him. | |
| | | Korenav Team Coordinator
Posts : 2471 Join date : 2011-11-21
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 6:13 pm | |
| A classic example of 'someone not worth your time'.
I used to be one of those people that always tried to make the best impression. That helped everyone and fixed every wrong interpretation people could take of me. If someone said i lacked something sincere, i would do all i could to reassure and correct. I eventually learned that every detail about life is like a sinking ship sometimes. You can try to save them all, and have most of them sink along with you, or you can save the ones that really matter most.
This guy wants you to drown.
Not because he honestly believes what he says. Not because he thinks you are indeed a bad person. But because it amuses him.
What could motivate that? Could be his own insecurities. Could be that he prefers easy targets. Maybe something he resents inside himself requires a focused distraction. There is no telling what. Honestly, its hard to justify spending the time thinking about it. One thing is clear though, he wants a reaction.
Telling you what he thinks of you gives him the satisfaction of knowing what it does to you. And telling others gives him a 'group' mentality.
What to do? Its the easiest and hardest thing to do in the same breath.
Nothing.
You could tell every person of authority, every friend, and even bloody their nose. It only gives them a response. A challenge. Give them nothing and all their efforts get them no results.
Cala, to be more personal, i know how you feel. I have had this happen before, and honestly, later in life they will be just a memory. For the bully, it will be one of many memories that builds up to their collapse.
As many of us say, 'Love and Tolerate'. But also don't forget to be reasonable about it too. Telling your superiors is the right thing. Whoever invented the 'tattle tale' phrase must have been victimized a whole lot.
Ultimately, we are here for you, and so are many others around you too. Don't let one mean worded bully set your feelings for you when you already know you aren't that.
Laugh and carry on. | |
| | | Blind Side
Posts : 870 Join date : 2012-11-29 Age : 32 Location : Canterlot
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 6:19 pm | |
| If there's anything I know about bullies, it's that they want you to get upset. I'm happy to hear that you're ignoring him and that you've gone to the school staff about it. if it's still going on, you should keep going to the school staff about it. Make sure they know about everything that's going on.
Also, if it helps, nothing says "your strategy isn't working" more than a smile and a wave. happiness is their kryptonite.
There are plenty here who will be happy to help in any way we can. bullying is a major issue for me because I was bullied throughout my entire school career. I know how hard it can be to ignore it, but believe me when I say that the best thing you can do is nothing. | |
| | | Callilian
Posts : 1654 Join date : 2013-02-27 Location : Lost to the sands of time.
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 6:27 pm | |
| Thank you!! Your support is very kind. I'll take all your suggestions to heart and try and end this once and for all. | |
| | | Dawn Orchard
Posts : 358 Join date : 2013-04-13 Age : 26 Location : I'm right here, silly!
| Subject: Re: I need advice Tue May 21, 2013 9:20 pm | |
| I know you have already gotten advice but I want to give you some more...
I know it's hard to ignore the bully but please keep trying. Telling the Vice principle was a wise choice and if it doesn't stop talk to him/her again. (I wish I had when I was bullied) If it gets too out of hand tell your parents!
STORY TIME!
In 5th grade I was bullied (verbally), I never told anyone and it got worse and worse. One day it was so bad I cracked... I started crying because of them. I had to go to the guidance office and they said I could press charges on the bully (of course I didn't because I'm so nice). Point is, please don't let it get out of hand, I did and I regret the choice to this very day. (P.S. I wasn't pretty or cool, but I'm not now so lol) | |
| | | Digital Changeling
Posts : 445 Join date : 2012-11-18 Age : 29 Location : Highly Undisclassified *cough* Hive 55 *cough*
| Subject: Re: I need advice Wed May 22, 2013 12:16 am | |
| Do you know how the brony catchphrase of "Love and Tolerate" started?
It was a codeword for "Don't feed the trolls." That bully is a troll, so love and tolerate him. Like Kore said, he wants to drown you with what he says. You can counter this and drown him with silence and tolerance. Though I will remind you that tolerance is not the same as acceptance, it's just to deal with it with self control.
Look on the bright side, this guy is making you stronger. If you overcome his taunts, then you have developed emotionally and mentally,
Psst... there's a saying where I come from: "The more you hate, the more you love."
If he gets on your last nerves, just tell him that. (I suggest not to do this though, I haven't tried it myself.) A friend of yours saying that to him will get him flustered. I mean, it does insult him, and it could backfire like anything else, but eh, it's just a last resort.
Btw, if he says that nobody cares about your stories, then just say: "What about you? You care, don't you? You keep bringing that up, you must care about it so much to keep talking about it."
But do think about what I say and use your own values. Cause we're from different cultures and my tactics may not work for you, so consider that factor before saying what I say word for word. | |
| | | MiniKirby123
Posts : 712 Join date : 2013-02-14 Location : In a TARDIS, navigating through the universe.
| Subject: Re: I need advice Wed May 22, 2013 3:48 am | |
| . . . I don't know how to give great advice like the others, but...
<3 I'm rooting for you! *sends Calla love and support beams* | |
| | | Weedo The Great
Posts : 290 Join date : 2013-05-17 Age : 30 Location : Gone forever probably
| Subject: Re: I need advice Wed May 22, 2013 4:29 am | |
| Trolls are like changelings (no offence Digital) except they feed on frustration ... starve the poor bugger with a smile :D | |
| | | Digital Changeling
Posts : 445 Join date : 2012-11-18 Age : 29 Location : Highly Undisclassified *cough* Hive 55 *cough*
| Subject: Re: I need advice Wed May 22, 2013 5:59 am | |
| We are not like trolls! We are awesome!!! | |
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